I am often struck by how we (audiophiles) strive so intensely to create 'more musical enjoyment' through 'higher fidelity' while my non-audiophile friends and family accomplish the same thing without our gear fetish. I have yet to see a party get better because I went up from CD quality bit rates to high rez files.
One wife of a fellow Hi Fi Club member once told us: Music lovers like romance, audiophiles like gynecology.
I get what she means.
There are also different horses for different courses. In my car, I can sound pretty much exactly like any singer I am listening to. At home, not so much!
Does anyone here hear a great song come on the radio in the car and say to himself, "Wow, I love this song. Once I get home, I am going to play it again so I can really enjoy it!"
I don't think musical joy requires much of a system at all. Hearing the subway train on Belafonte at Carnegie Hall adds exactly zero extra musical pleasure. I don't need to hear musicians turning pages. Microanatomical artifacts aren't part of that, for me.
Comparing interconnects at a club listening session is part of my interest in gear, not so much trying to figure out what Artist XYZ is really trying to say.
I do admit that John Cage's 4'33" is better on my Hi Fi rig than in my car.
We already divide ourselves from music lovers who don't need our pricey gear to reach bliss, no need to further divide amongst ourselves.