i think really that many audiophiles don't know, or are not confident, exactly what sort of presentation is emotionally engaging......for them. they like music, especially music they know, but are seeking the gear that takes them to that higher place. at what point do you know where you want to be? it's very complicated. like developing any skill set or competence, it takes time and some personal growth. for a time you follow other's advice assuming it's taking you toward it, but then at a point you get off that path onto your own. you find the combination of elements that touch you on most/all music. sometimes not understanding why everyone does not go where you went.
so it's easy to understand how a seeking audiophile is unsure what is emotionally engaging for them at their spot on the path. developing your own reference sound is not trivial.
the positive thing is that the path at all points is still fun mostly 100%.
just my 2 cents.