Sure, we are discussing this drawing on our personal experiences & conclusions that we have come to. Correct about our hearing mechanism - at the physiological level it is not passive but very much a dynamic & active
Agreed, the stored model is not reality, it is a model of reality in a very synthetic form (the same as our visual model is also a very highly abstracted version of the signals that impinges on our eyes.
Where I think we are talking past one another is maybe in this aspect - there is a set of rules & models that define our internalised auditory library of reality - - for instance we evaluate a sound & conclude things like the size & how far away it is. We can do this, in variously different environments, because we have certain characteristics/rules that is referenced to our internally stored auditory model of the world. This isn't as variable, as you suggest & maybe isn't as fixed in nature, as I suggest - although I believe that, after infancy, it only is added to or changes when we engage in auditory training, otherwise it is fixed & unmoveable. Where I think the gap between us lies is in how we think a mismatch to this internal model will be perceived - you, I suspect believe that this will be immediately noticeable & I maintain that a mismatch is not an all or nothing result - it is a sliding scale from great match to bad match. I'm saying that some mismatches will only become apparent over some time living with the pre-amp.
Here's an interesting paper that is relevant to something JackD posted - "Come on John. It's not like someone is blind testing blanks and live ammo in a revolver in a room full of people". This paper is from the Army Research Laboratory, titled "Feasibility of Audio Training for Identification of Auditory Signatures of Small Arms Fire". I reference this because it very much is a question of life & death - identifying the sound of enemy small arms is crucial in survival & is possible only because of the stored reference of the sound to which "live event" is compared to. This is happening in all sorts of different auditory surroundings.
In this case blind listening can be a matter of life & death
Well, I can attest that different assault rifles do sound very different even if firing the same ammunition. The HK G35 has the best bass of the three I fired recently, the others being an Israeli Tavor and lastly an M4. I I would give the M4 the best highs and the Tavor the best mids. The differences are NIGHT and DAY. LOL.