a couple of questions;
--how solid are your walls? or your floor and ceiling?
--how decoupled are your electronics from feedback?
some rooms are too stout, and so the bass gets too reinforced which adds to the negative affect of room nodes. other rooms are too soft, and the bass does not have strong enough room boundaries to be retained and so you miss impact.
establishing stronger room boundaries sounds expensive, but it's more a pain in the arse than a huge expense. floors and ceilings can be more complicated. but in any case if you like the sound you have but want more solid bass this might be a thing to consider.
a product i used which adds minimal depth is Quietrock THX 545. it's only 1 and 3/8 inches thick but will perform better than 6 sheets of 5/8" sheetrock. it has a 1/4" thick layer of aluminum in it. it's not cheap, but for under a couple thousand dollars you could have very stout walls.
http://quietrock.com/quietrock-product/quietrock-545-thx
there are many de-coupling products which will reduce/eliminate bass impact robbing feedback. and maybe you already have this covered.
before you spend money on a bunch of bass traps, and get a DSP and digitize your signal path.....consider these 2 areas of opportunity.